Part 1: How was your birth?
1. What was your birth like for you?
Well, my pregnancy wasn't easy. I felt isolated before I ever got to the delivery room. When I took my childbirth education class, I was the only person who hadn't gained any weight. I was the only person who had gestational diabetes. I was the only one who had been forced to consider a c-section. I knew then that my pregnancy was far from normal. The last four weeks leading up to my delivery were frustrating. I hated being stuck at home. I hated not working. I hated having my dogs shipped off to the in-laws because they were too much work for me to take care of them. I hated being trapped. I hated not being able to eat. I hated being pregnant. I hated knowing that I wasn't going to have the birth I wanted. Don't get me wrong, I was resigned to the complications. I acknowledged, and still acknowledge, that they were real. I was willing to do whatever it took to have a healthy baby, but it doesn't make it any easier to handle the emotions of watching your dreams fade before your eyes.
For me labor wasn't that bad. Since I had resigned myself to the induction, the tubes, the wires, the monitors, etc. I didn't find it to be very traumatizing. It went the way I was expecting it to happen. I was trapped in bed, but I knew that. I had lots of tubes, but I knew that too. There were monitors everywhere, but after having NST's for the four prior weeks I knew about those too. Truthfully, I really didn't find it very painful. That may piss some people off, but to me it wasn't that bad. I was frustrated that information didn't seem to be flowing smoothly between the nurses at the hospital and the doctor at the clinic. I was also frustrated about justifying, arguing, whatever you want to call it with the anesthesiologist over the epidural. However, neither of those things contributed to my PTSD. I was irritated that the nurse didn't believe me when I told her the epidural wasn't working. It's not like I wanted her to do anything about it other than mention it to the doctor. I remember the contractions piling one on top of the other. It seemed like there was no break from them, but I just concentrated on the fluorescent light fixture, and breathed through them. I remember one of the nurses offering to dim the lights, and I was pretty emphatic about wanting them left on. Other than the bathroom, the only thing I could see while lying on my right side was the light fixture. I needed the focal point to center my breathing to ride over the pain of the contractions. I remember feeling like it was time to push. It seems weird that everyone believed me when I said that, but no one believed that the epidural wasn't working. I pushed, and pushed, and Mel asked me if I wanted help. I told her yes, and she told the nurse the next time she came in. It seemed to take forever for the doctor to show up with his handy dandy vacuum. I remember him asking if I was okay with that, and I answered yes. I remember tearing and the feeling of relief when my daughter slid out. I remember being exhausted and collapsing on the bed. There were several frustrations and some irritations, but overall it was about what I had expected. Not what I wanted, but what I resigned myself to when I realized that the complications had derailed my plans.
The real problems started after my daughter was born. I remember thinking, wow, I'm a mom. I knew it was going to happen, but there's something kind of odd about having them place a new baby in your arms. I was relieved, anxious to spend time with her, and introduce myself. However, I was completely repulsed by all of the goo and blood covering her body. At that point, I really wanted them to clean her up. I started feeling woozy. Just a little bit off. I was about to ask a question about the way I was feeling when the nurse asked if I wanted to hold the baby. I said no. I knew something wasn't quite right, and I was afraid to hold her at that time. Mel brought her over to me, and I reached out my hand. PAIN! It shot through my whole body. I've never experienced anything like it. Everything went black. The pain consumed me. It was in me, around me, smothering me. I couldn't scream. I was trapped by it. I clawed at the sheets. I tried dragging myself away from it, but I lost the battle. The pain was inescapable. I heard snippets of conversations. We're going to need to go to surgery... Where the hell are they... What's taking so long... It's about time you got here... The sides of the bed snap up. I'm moving fast down the hallway. The lights were beaming down on my eyelids, they're moving me to a hard surface, they're poking me, and then nothing.
Some one's talking to me. I can't focus. I just go back to sleep. I hear people talking again. She won't be able to breastfeed. I can't stop shaking. They're piling blankets on top of me. What happened?
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